December 12, 2010 § Leave a comment
“A person cannot approach the divine by reaching beyond the human. To become human, is what this individual person, has been created for.”
There is a small gathering around my living room table. Friends have come to celebrate and say good-bye for the winter. I am struck by the depth of these friendships. Our lives -every single one of our lives- are built upon these kinds of bonds. I wonder what my life would have looked like without them. What kind of aloneness did they lift from my shoulders all these years? When I think about it, I am filled with gratitude. We don’t have to look very far to find true love. This is what love looks like: it isn’t exotic or strange or out of reach. It is something very close. It is found in the people we love just because they exist; the people we cherish and accept and forgive and support over and over again. That kind of love can only arrive through some kind of grace; we can’t control it or search it out. It arrives, and one day we notice ten or thirty years have passed, and love is still there. We notice there is nothing that person can say or do to make love disappear. It is always and already present. Love had arrived long before we ever became conscious of its meaning or impact on our lives.